I was raised as a bed maker.
We are raising bed makers.
So is my wife - sorta...
The question of why I value the discipline of straightening the sheets and blankets every morning is best for another time. (I hinted at it HERE.) Really, bed making isn't the point of this blog. But it is a helpful illustration.
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As seen in this picture. She makes her side of the bed, and leaves mine undone... huh??? What's a guy to think? If I were to seek explanation of this phenomenon on Facebook, I'm sure our "friends" would come up with some great insights - most of them missing the mark by a mile. But understanding why is only so helpful.
The question is, what do I do with it? Honestly, my human nature wants to get petty about it. "If she doesn't finish my side, when I do it, I shouldn't finish hers," I think to myself. Or I won't take out the garbage, or just stop making the bed, or I'll - and the downward spiral of doom gets going - even if it is only in my head....
Better marriage advice - Don't Get Petty! Take the high road. Bring better into the relationship, not worse. Seriously, do you want to know how long it takes to remedy this situation? About 5 seconds! In a few seconds I can flip the cover up, grad the superfluous pillows from next to the bed, and even arrange the two teddy bears. Or in five seconds I can start a brew which will NEVER lead to be better marriage.
Yes, marriage is a give and take. If it is all take and no give there are problems. However, even the best spouse (which my wife is) isn't perfect. We have to cover for each other, we have to extend grace.
What can you let go, accept, and cover to keep filling each other's marital tanks?
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