Sex in the Coal Mine

 Trivia: Canaries were used as early warning system
for miners in Britain as recently at 1987

Sex is both robust and enduring, and incredibly fragile. Sorta like the good old canary in the coal mine.

The point of this posting is simple: Pay attention to sex!  It could save your marriage.

If the sex starts to die, figure out why.  There are physical reasons sex might be down for a season, but sex is a good early warning system for a marriage heading in the wrong direction.

Don't wait till the time since sex is measured in months or years.  Think of the miners working in a mine with elevated carbon dioxide.  The canary looks a little weak, the miner feels fine.  Even when the canary is dead, the miner may not be hampered in their work - but while they may feel okay, the damage is beginning.  A marriage which is a bit toxic can go on for a while, it may even feel okay, but the damage is happening.

Unless something changes in the mine or in the marriage, the toxicity will build, and ultimately - often a good while after the canary dies - there is death.  A death which might have been prevented if corrective actions were taken when the early warning signals were seen.

Depending on your age, years of marriage, and many other factors, how much sex is the right amount of sex can vary - but healthy sex is part of the typical healthy marriage.  The reality is; the best sex is had within marriage!  So if your sex life is changing - pay attention.

Sex ties into so many aspects of your relationship less sex could mean a dozen different things.  Maybe you are getting out of shape, maybe stress levels are high, maybe emotional needs are not being met, maybe you aren't taking the time, or the TV is on too much, or....

Let the canary die of old age, 
not a toxic environment and 
you are on the way to a better marriage.