There are "those" couples. You know the ones, the BFF couples - "we're best friends." I might as well confess up front, I'm in a BFF marriage. Jen and I have many overlapping interests, we can't get enough time together, we talk about almost everything. We are best friends, we are husband and wife, and it is a great combo. But it isn't for everyone. And it isn't "the way" to have a better marriage. Just because two people aren't "best friends" is no excuse not to have a great marriage.It would be unfair, if the only way to have a stellar marriage is by finding and marrying your BFF. (although many things in life aren't fair, this isn't one of them)
It would be unfair because:
- If you are married, the decision is made. You you aren't with your BFF, you don't have the option of switching. (or at least not without leaving an ugly trail of divorce destruction)
- Men and women are so different, most don't immediately find the BFF bond with the opposite sex.
- Often the BFF slot is filled before marriage is on the horizon.
And let me say, I have seen BFF marriages go really bad. Marrying your "best friend" is a great place to start, but it does not guarantee a naked marriage. Every marriage needs the work of realizing you are different, figuring out those differences, and giving your partner what they need at the deepest levels. Even best friends can pull out the fig leaves, try and cover up and hide things. Even more so when it is a man and a woman trying to bring their differences together.
What you need to do is be BSF - that would be Best Spouses Forever. Strive hard to be the best husband for your wife, or the best wife for your husband. When this is the focus, similar interests or not, the two can become one and life can be good!
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