Can it be balanced?

I was planning to follow up my last blog, with these thoughts in something more like a week not a month...
After two entries about weight and fitness, the questions arises; What about the other side?  What about being accepted for who I am?  What about seeing the deep lasting beauty of your spouse?

Proverbs 31:30:

"Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last;
but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised."

I realize this moving image is a bit annoying/distracting,
but I couldn't help myself... the love pec pop - women dig it!

Here is the reality, no matter how much I work out, I will never have the pecs of Dwayne Johnson (The Rock), nor the face of Brad Pitt, nor the suavity Johnny Depp, nor the....  it just ain't gonna happen.

And as stunning as the exterior of my wife is, she will never have the body of an airbrushed VS model.

Why can't we just be loved for who we are?  Why can't a lasting beauty which is more than skin deep be what is appreciated?

The reality is, this is what is most important.  The greatest gift we can give our spouse is acceptance!  That's the idea of being naked in the garden - it is that we are fully exposed before each other, and not ashamed.  We know we are known, but despite of of the fact that they know the "imperfections," we know we are loved.  Loved in a committed, no-matter-what kind of way.

I often focus on the differences between men and women, and what we are looking for to fill our marital tanks - but both men and women long for acceptance.  When we offer this "no matter what you're awesome" acceptance, we are giving them something profound.

Maintaining Balance

If it was easy, everyone would be doing it!  This is definitely something I am still working on.  How do you balance accepting your spouse and sharing what your spouse can do to fill your marital tank?

Whether I am a romantic or not, whether I bring home flowers or not, if I happen to be an insensitive lump - I really appreciate the gift of being loved as the man that I am.  However, I need to know my wife wants romance, flowers, and sensitivity.
Do you feel the tension?  If she says I'm not romantic enough - does this mean she doesn't accept me for who I am?

I need to know both: 
           - I'm accepted
           - How to be better at meeting her needs as a woman

Acceptance of the good and the bad - this is found in the biblical love of commitment to the best for the other - it should be the foundation of marriage.  In this lasting love we can find the foundation upon which we can share what will make us a bit more blissful in our marriage.